If you had a baby born with mentally ill problems or some horrible deformation would you put him up for adopti

be honest with your answer. we grow up in a world that judges a person by their appearance. how many times did you make fun of an ugly person or a mentally ill person? what if your kid came out like that? would you take care of him/her? my mom says that whatever God gives you you must take care of no matter what.If you had a baby born with mentally ill problems or some horrible deformation would you put him up for adopti
Your mother is right! every child is a gift from God, no matter what they look like.


I would love my child no matter what he looked like! or what was wrong with him!If you had a baby born with mentally ill problems or some horrible deformation would you put him up for adopti
I personally would. I don't think you 'should because God gave this to you'. I think you should IF it is in your heart and you can do so without feeling your life is ruined. Some people can do it, and some can't. None is better than the other. It IS HUGE. It drains your life of an normality for the rest of your life. NOT doing it is not 'selfish' or 'wrong'... that is a very valid decision. Personally I would do it with respite.
I would keep it no matter what!!
No, regardless the baby is still apart of me and pregnancy for me was a bonding period for me and my babies. Though a lot of mothers or mothers to be don't see it this way. Your bond starts when you baby is in the womb. I would love my baby just the same. I didn't tease, taunt, or stare because my mother raise us around people with challenges. They work hard to over come their challenges and we work hard making challenges for ourselves. Be blessed
Now, why would I have had this baby in the first place? There are a multitude of tests available to pregnant women today, which allow parents to chose to give birth. It is selfish to bring a child into this world knowing that his/her life will be horrific. Parents have a choice, I would exercise that choice.
Life is full of hard choices but I truly believe that everything that happens to us for a reason.





Every child is a precious blessing, mental problems, deformities, and all. You should trust that this special child was given to you for a much larger purpose. Maybe to show you much strength, love, and patience is inside of you. This child can still bring lots of lots of joy to your life even if the road to that joy is not as easy as you'd prefer it to be.
i never made fun of people who had mental or physical problems, wasnt raised that way. i did have a child that has mental problems and i would NEVER have even considered giving him up for adoption. he's the love of my life, the apple of my eye. your mom is right.
I would keep my baby for just a mental disease. My bro has autism and I think he is one of the coolest people on this planet and I know that I would be able to take care of a mentally disabled child.





I would have to think about it with a physical disabiliy. Not only would medical bills sky rocket for children born with medical disabiliy, but their life span and quality of life is compromised, then I might abort. My aunt had 2 children who died as infants from cystic fibrosis. I would not want to put my children through the pain they went through, and I wouldn't be able to watch my child die in such an awful way, knowing I could only have done one thing to prevent it.
HE-L-L NO I would love my child for what they are inside not for their looks or brains As for the world of appearances screw em i wear baggy clothes daily n if they care about that dont bother tellin me cuz i dont care
i wanna say im gonna love him as much as i can but a normal kid's already so much work. and i dont think i can handle a mentally ill child
No. I already had a scare like that when I was pregnant with my son. He came out perfect by the way and nothing was wrong with him physically or mentally. During the pregnancy I made the decision that IF something would have been wrong with him, I was keeping him no matter what because he was apart of me and here for a reason.
Absolutely not! However if the first ultrasound had shown some kind of problem that would have seriously compromised the child's quality or quantity of life I may have considered an abortion. It would have all depended on what the issue was and what kind of treatment/care options were available. It also would have depended on my husband's wishes as well.





What if your baby was completely normal but say at the age of 5 or 10 or 15 he/she became ill or in an accident that left them mentally or physically disabled? Would you walk away from them? Why would you do that to your own baby when they need you the most?





This has nothing to do with God, and everything with doing what is right for the child. So if you honestly could not cope with a baby like that then you shouldn't even consider having children, why take the risk?
I'd probably have an abortion first. But, if the child was born I would just go with it and do the best I could to support that child.
yes i would take care of the baby no matter wat i agree w. ur mom! my cousin had sumtin like tat %26amp; i loved him no matter wat im happy i met him cuz u'll never kow wat they grow up to be!! %26amp; u'll wonder 4 the rest of ur life!!
These babies did ask to be brought into this world, we decided to bring them into it! No matter what we should love that baby with all our hearts. Its doesn't matter what other people might say or do, that is our child and we should be there to protect them!


So no i wouldn't give the baby up for adoption! God only gives you what he thinks you can handle.
I would love the baby just as much
I was always taught to treat people the way I wanted to be treated. I never teased mentally ill kids, but I often defended them. I used to wonder how things would be if I had a mentally ill child. I don't think they are ugly at all. They show you the true meaning of love. The only way I would give my child up for an adoption was if I knew I could not properly care for them. I wouldn't give them up to any family though. I would only give my child to a nurturing family. They would also have to have time and money to care for the child. However, I don't think another person could treat them as well as I could b/c that's my child. I know I would love my baby no matter the outcome. That child would be a part of me. I would be hurt to learn that others were mistreating my child because of an illness. Therefore, I would do everything I could to see to it that they were taken care of. If I did give it up, I would want to visit my child. I would want them to know me and know how much I love them. In cases like this, you have to decide what the best decision is for your child. Giving them up does not mean you don't love them. It's just that there may be someone else who is more equipped to deal with a child with mental disabilities.
your mum is rite its the inner person that counts people who make fun of any body about there look or there disability or just plain ignorant and just want people to think there smart at the end of the day we all have a disability, so no matter what the look like you will love them more
I know how you feel my friend was in your position i know it is hard to deal with a mentally ill child or a deformed child but its your child no matter what the baby looks like he or she should be beutiful in your eyes and should be cared for be his or her mother.
no way would I put him or her up for adoption!!! It's your child and you should love it now matter what
Boy, what a question. You didn't say, but one can only presume, or at least suspect, that you are asking with regard to your own child.





And I honestly don't know, whether or not I would put them up for adoption.





If one is a very, VERY moral person, then they would agree with your mother.





But sadly, I don't think that most people are that moral.





The bottom line for me, would involve the considerations of two factors: what the economics of the situation were, and if there were siblings.





If one is wealthy, money takes care of a lot of problems. Nannies, nurses could be hired to attend to such a problem child, around the clock if need be; thus relieving the parents from most of the physical chores required to care for them.





Or, they could be institutionalized, again relieving the parents of caring for them. And should the parents be able to afford to do this, it would not for the most part, interfer with the rearing of any siblings.





But if they, the parents, are not fortunate enough to be members of the well-heeled, then the possibility of adoption might apply.





It would be a heart-wrenching decision to make, regardless.





So, bottom line, I would not counsel you one way or the other. Am just grateful I don't have to make such a choice.





A truly saddened,





Wotan
no, i could never have something growing inside me for 9 months just to give it away. i will love my children no matter what they look like or what mental issues they may have. and i think that any one who would give up thier child, just becuaes they are not perfect, needs to look in a mirror and relize that they are not perfect either. people like that should never have kids and should make sure that they are unable to ever have kids because their children will be just as descriminating as they are.
im not sure if i was preg as i have four already id seriousley consider an abortion, but after giving birth id have to see if i felt a bond or not. Im a very maternal person so id say id prob keep it.
If I'm totally honest, the only thing that would make me consider not keeping a child would be the actual condition. If the child would have no quality of life then it isn't fair to bring them into the world and a termination is kindest.


On the other hand, if the condition isn't life threatening or causing pain, I think these children should be given a chance.


One of my friends was born with Spina Bifida, he had multiple problems associated with this, he couldn't walk, talk properly and was incontinent. However, he had a large circle of friends and was a very intelligent person. I have also worked with people with Down's Syndrome, and in my opinion they are very special and individual, and their families and friends adore them. Yes, some people make fun but they are the small minded minority.


I have never made fun of someone with disabilities, I was brought up never to do that, and while some people do, you could never make a decision like this based on other people's prejudices. It has to be a choice for the individual.





I'm not religious at all, and I'm not particularly maternal, I have no children and have no plans to have any in the future, but if I was in that position and the only reason for giving a child up was that it wasn't perfect and people would make fun, it wouldn't sway my decision to keep it in the slightest.